Hi guys, my girlfriend has decided to join me at most of my club nits which is great but I want to help her improve. Her technique isnt great, her power is terrible and movement is slow but she can hit the thing pretty well and for a girl is pretty good compared to lot of girls ive seen.

Shes the kinda girl that does her own thing and if she thinks her way is better, she will do it.

For example her power is poor so I told her about standing side on and stepping into the shot to get it to back of court like throwing a ball or stone but she doesnt do it. She stands square on and says it feels more comfortable and better. A few people ave tried to show her this but she stil does her own way.

Depending on who we are playing we can get thrashed and if she was able to even get her shots back to the back of the court, it wud make my job lot easier

Any advice on giving advice lol? Any1 else play with a weaker girlfriend?

Cheers

(She enjoys it and I enjoy playing wit her, jus want to give her more enjoyment out of her games)

Well, I got my gf playing badminton too. When playing doubles with her, get her to stand in front - mixed doubles style.

When you're serving, get her to stand in front, so you serve from behind her.

Do the normal stuff when she serves (u at the back).

Try to move the shuttlecock so that she can get to the front, (and you, the back)

Now my gf's a monster at the net.

Just focus on having fun. Don't worry about winning or losing, otherwise you will end up becoming frustrated with her game. If you really want her to improve, or she wants to improve, have a friend or a coach work with her. The thing to remember is, what happens on the court usually does not stay on the court when you play with your gf/bf/wife/husband.

I'm speaking from experience. I played mixed doubles with my wife before we started dating. Before we were dating, she would listen well and work hard to incorporate my suggestions. After we started dating, she decided she didn't have to listen to me on the court anymore. After we were married, she wouldn't listen to anything I'd say, and would argue back if I offered the slightest suggestion. Basically the only time we would fight is on the court :p

Anyway, whatever you do, good luck! Tread carefully

Well, I got my gf playing badminton too. When playing doubles with her, get her to stand in front - mixed doubles style.

When you're serving, get her to stand in front, so you serve from behind her.

Do the normal stuff when she serves (u at the back).

Try to move the shuttlecock so that she can get to the front, (and you, the back)

Now my gf's a monster at the net.

Hey mate, yea I tried her at the front and me back at the start but i found that she wasnt getting much of a game, only the odd shot which she wasnt enjoyin and I want her to get lot of action and shots cause she does enjoy being involved rather than jus standing der.

So we play sides, if its reali far back the clear, its mine. Am almost playin singles sumtimes to help cover her but hey more practice for me :D. Its gud job am a decent level player!

But any advice on how to make suggestions. I dont want her to feel embarrassed by me telling her wot to do infront of other people. Dont want her feeling like am better than her or sumthing like that, you know what woman are like lol :p

Hey mate, yea I tried her at the front and me back at the start but i found that she wasnt getting much of a game, only the odd shot which she wasnt enjoyin and I want her to get lot of action and shots cause she does enjoy being involved rather than jus standing der.

So we play sides, if its reali far back the clear, its mine. Am almost playin singles sumtimes to help cover her but hey more practice for me :D. Its gud job am a decent level player!

But any advice on how to make suggestions. I dont want her to feel embarrassed by me telling her wot to do infront of other people. Dont want her feeling like am better than her or sumthing like that, you know what woman are like lol :pMaybe offer her a book on badminton? Might be harder for her to argue with words written by a pro/coach.

Shes the kinda girl that does her own thing and if she thinks her way is better, she will do it.


I think this statement basically answers your question.

If she thinks her way is best for then so be it. You'll just have to work with it.

A warning though, it's never easy playing with your bf/gf because there will be times when you'll get into arguments. My suggestion is basically let her enjoy her game, her way, and you to be there to support. Badminton is fun, but don't let it ruin your relationship.

I totally feel you man. I used to play mix double in highschool team so I know a little bit about the fundamentals and techniques. So when I first started out playing mix with my gf, who played a little bit here and there but never had formal training, it was quite painful. We had a lot of argument about why I was being so anal about drilling footwork/ practicing shots and that we were just here to have "fun". Eventually she came around and realize that she had a lot more fun when her shots became more consistent and our rallies would be fast paced 10+ shots instead of the random one two shots. So now she is more willing to practice and even open to getting some private coaching for us to get better :D. What I find that helped was:

Don't focus on critique her play, but rather show her how other people play. We had some really good mix couples at the club and I would try to get her to watch them and break down the aspect of their play for her like stances, positioning etc.

Try to play with people who are better than us. I know that my gf is a fighter and getting a beat down would help encourage her to improve. I tried to tell her not to return a drop with a soft lift but that never worked. So then we played with some people who had really hard smash. After getting repeatedly getting smashed down she learned not to soft lift on her own :D.

Last but not least, if you have experience in other activities together that you can reference too it would help. We used to go salsa dancing a lot for many years. And like badminton, the fun really only kick in after you practice enough to get to a decent level.

If there is another lady in your club that she talks to and hopefully better than your gf. A little girl-to-girl talk, "Btw, maybe you should try this ...", when you are NOT around of couse :)

Hi guys, my girlfriend has decided to join me at most of my club nits which is great but I want to help her improve. Her technique isnt great, her power is terrible and movement is slow but she can hit the thing pretty well and for a girl is pretty good compared to lot of girls ive seen.

Shes the kinda girl that does her own thing and if she thinks her way is better, she will do it.

For example her power is poor so I told her about standing side on and stepping into the shot to get it to back of court like throwing a ball or stone but she doesnt do it. She stands square on and says it feels more comfortable and better. A few people ave tried to show her this but she stil does her own way.

Depending on who we are playing we can get thrashed and if she was able to even get her shots back to the back of the court, it wud make my job lot easier

Any advice on giving advice lol? Any1 else play with a weaker girlfriend?

Cheers

(She enjoys it and I enjoy playing wit her, jus want to give her more enjoyment out of her games)

One of my friend train her female friend in a very perculiar way. He enroll them into some small local competition.

After the competition, he will ask them "So, how did the game go?". They will start telling him what they notice they lack compared to the other girls.

I find it interesting and a very effective working training method. They have been working hard to overcome the weakness they notice themselves.

Yes well, we all do realise competitions and tournaments helps in gauging yourself on how much your potential has developed over a certain period of time. A girl who normally have determination would probably find time to play badminton more oftenly than to hit the club or spend the pennies. So you can start encouraging her saying girls like her are really beautiful, especially when she is portraying her sporting side on the court. Encourage her to try picking up stamina as the basics.

I used to do the most fundamental training by jogging with my girl. It improves my stamina by a whole lot and we spend time together too. Just that she doesnt play badminton, she does volleyball.

Stamina can make her last longer on the court without feeling tired. Leg muscles helps her to boost better footwork too. Great luck!

Rgds ;)
Dave-

Yes well, we all do realise competitions and tournaments helps in gauging yourself on how much your potential has developed over a certain period of time. A girl who normally have determination would probably find time to play badminton more oftenly than to hit the club or spend the pennies. So you can start encouraging her saying girls like her are really beautiful, especially when she is portraying her sporting side on the court. Encourage her to try picking up stamina as the basics.

I used to do the most fundamental training by jogging with my girl. It improves my stamina by a whole lot and we spend time together too. Just that she doesnt play badminton, she does volleyball.

Stamina can make her last longer on the court without feeling tired. Leg muscles helps her to boost better footwork too. Great luck!

Rgds ;)
Dave-

Hey daves, cheers but my woman is a fitness fanatic and does sum part time coaching, wel used to and she works in the post delivering mail so she is very fit stamina wise.

She intends on playin in the leagues hopefully with me so I definately will help her and explain what other players are doing well and doin wrong which mite get her to start thinking about her own game

there is no way you can get her better if she doesn't want to change. By doesn't want to change her style means she complete do not want to learn. That's mean she will never improve. Rather trying to Get her better why not just play for fun and not care about win or lose.
I used the word GET because she doesn't want to get better and you on the other hand do. Which mean you want to GET her better. You will only able to HELP when she wants to get better.

there is no way you can get her better if she doesn't want to change. By doesn't want to change her style means she complete do not want to learn. That's mean she will never improve. Rather trying to Get her better why not just play for fun and not care about win or lose.
I used the word GET because she doesn't want to get better and you on the other hand do. Which mean you want to GET her better. You will only able to HELP when she wants to get better.

True enough, maybe when she plays in leagues and gets beat more than she wins, she will want to improve and listen to advice. She has been coached by good players before on footwork and power etc but she insists her way is better or feels more comfortable but mayb she wil c that der is a better way.

I dont take our games very seriously, jus a bit of fun, I try and do best I can to win the game but its no big deal, as long as she is hitting the shuttle a gud few times and enjoying it, am hapy man.

Girls are like that when they got intimate with someone. It likes they are working deeply for that "love investment" and entrapping it. They are love snakes and that is what makes boys and men miserable! They would despise any direct and even undirect discipline and honorable instructions as you had described for the sake of "prettiness" in the "name of love"!

It would be a long and hard work with a very deep commitment and patience to make her your "Badminton Woman"! See the difference when she plays with a different partner aside yourself on how she plays desirable and beautiful.

My advise would be is to study very carefully her best and average desirable and beautiful game. Then make your own strategical game of standards on her for your satisfaction. You had to make it sure it would be also desirable and beautiful for her to be Blinded to you! Then you will see that improvement and "beauty" of the partner game. So does the "love investment". It goes hand and hand for girls and women. Good luck in marriage.:D;):mad:

Right now, your 2 are in 2 totally different world. Therefore, overly "push" can only lead to very negative result. It's like how you expect a college professor to teach a baby about all the high level knowledge. The baby simply does not have the fundamental or sense to even try to understand anything yet.

Maybe you want to help, to speed up her process, to take some "short cut", but until she learned the lesson the hard way, you can not even let her understand "what's wrong" to begin with.

So, take your time, take a deep breath, keep smiling, and most important, regardless how the progress goes, have fun in any way, but not just looking at the score sheet. ;)

My advice is try not to partner with her because sooner or later, you will start fighting each other on court eventually. If you want to help her improve, then train with her such as do drills with her etc. I think this way she will appreciate you more.

You have two options.

1. Play for fun. Who cares if you get thrashed as long as you enjoy your time together?

2. Find a better girl at club and make your gf jealous enough of how good the other girl is. Enough to make her start listening to you ;)

Third option is to find a new gf....jokes jokes :)

I talked to her about it and she says she will listen to my advice so hopefully she wil listen to my tactical advice atleast such as where to stand and to use a low serve etc. Il jus ave to wait and c how it goes lol.