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guys.. i need help.

Discussion in 'Chit-Chat' started by GTO-demon, Jul 30, 2005.

  1. GTO-demon

    GTO-demon Regular Member

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    ... i need some help :crying:... i dun't know how i made my gf mad at me... she's not talking to me or responding me in anyway... and the big problem is that... i dun't know what i did that mad her do this to me ...>< some help anyone?
     
  2. Cheung

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    Don't worry about it because she's made up her mind not to talk to you.

    Best thing to do is to walk away for a few days, enjoy yourself on the badminton court and then she'll probably start talking to you again.

    You'll probably get something along the lines of ...'why are you still playing badminton when you know I'm mad with you..'

    Best say the truth when replying - "Playing badminton sure beats talking to a brick wall anyday". ;)
     
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    no way. u sure did something bad that pissed her off!
    cheung's right may be walk away for a few days. buy her something then start the conversation again.
     
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    two things that works well together when a girl is really mad at you.

    give her some time to get the steam off, and then send her roses.
     
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    but than... aiii... :crying:... life is soo hard ><.... but true... badminton does get me all happy again :D.. but after tha... :crying:.... and no offence kwun.. but i think it's not time for me to send roses to her yet.. :p.... but yeah... thx guys.. it helps alot ~ =)
     
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    Just find another one. :D :D She did it once, she will do it again. She will make your life miserable. ;) ;)
     
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    Relax... eventually she will have to cool off.. She can't be angry at you forever.
     
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    hehe, men are the most primitive life forms........... :eek:
    dont u hate it when that happens? :mad:

    thats just hilarous. im still crackin up rite now :D
     
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    yep ants, if she still loves him! :D :D :D
     
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    haih! :(

    (i'm not tryina make you feel worse than you probably are, but) she probably has a good reason for snubbing you. agreed though, giving the cold-shoulder won't solve the problem.. (neither will roses nor plain wait-until- she- gets- tired- of- being -angry work for the long run).. but it sure is a start towards Effective Communication! (she gives you the silent treatment.. .. you take the hint that she's pissed at you)

    you could try and think back to the last (few) time(s) you were together. recall back Everything she said or complained about.. there could be stuff she repeatedly told you about, which you've overlooked .. . look, there's just no way she would get mad at you out of the blue, rihgt?

    bottomline:identify the problem and work about solving it OR let it be (ie. stay clueless), and it would eventually be a bigger one.
     
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    Maybe she's misunderstood you for doing something that you havn't done?

    Or someone has spread a rumor about you and it got to her.. ? :confused:
     
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    That's just the thing that is just so annoying with women, "If you don't know why I am ignoring you, then I won't tell you". They expect guys to be mind readers or something. :mad:
     
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    that's Exactly what i was trying to point out.

    anyone with any capability for expression Would try and give their partners a hint of what it is that may be bothering them before resolving to use the silent treatment.

    i think those guys who feel their gf's are emotionally rash could do with a self-reflection. :mad:
     
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    i soo agree with you .... the problem is that... she ain't giving me any hints... LOL... she's not even seeing me, or picking up the phone... i phone her " bye bye" ... haha.. the only way is to go to her house.. and talk to her about it.. (which i dout will work)
     
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    Women gets really irritated when their guys get too soft. You should seek her out and get an explanation from her. No point guessing what you have done wrong to deserve this. More importantly, don't wuss out and automatically apologise for whatever you did unless you really hurt her (physically or emotionally). Man, I think you gotta be prepared to lose her and move on.
     
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    sounds like there's no more hope for the both of you. .. but at least you're prepared for it. :rolleyes:
     
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    true...
    i guess i'll just do/say w/e comes along...
     
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    You must of done something. Think hard.


    If I were you, I would of have confronted her.
     
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    Yup, been down that path before. Conclusion is the same though... ;) That's why I advise anybody in the same position to have a think, if no solutions, then go play badminton.

    Playing badminton is far more constructive than trying to figure out the logic of a brick wall.


    GTO-demon has done that and it hasn't worked. And obviously the confrontation technique is not going to be useful since he's getting the "I'm not talking to you" tactic.

    In my analysis, it's a bit of the power game. The girl is obviously seeing how far she can manipulate our poor hero. She's probably laughing about it to her friends right now. Well, if she cannot be bothered talking to our hero, then why should he be bothered about the situation himself? He doesn;t even have a choice!!

    Far better to go and play badminton - life is not about being miserable. I'd rather people enjoy themselves:)
     
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    you could be right... but then we, as complete outsiders who don't know both sides of the story really shouldn't form the picture too soon, now should we?

    GTO-demon should know his gf's character. IF he agrees his gf is the manipulative kind or who likes nothing better than to throw a few tantrums whenever it suits her, I would certainly encourage him (along with most of the others here) to wipe her image off his memory Forever!

    OTHERWISE, the whole misunderstanding would only end in both parties getting hurt.:(
     

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