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    Default Love And Badminton..

    Hey there.. just wanna share this...
    1 of my friend (trust me, its not me!!), is joining a tournament soon. This tournament is very important for him. He told me that 1 of his ex-girlfriend is joining the tournament too. because they have just broke up and its very painful for him to see his ex-girlfriend again.

    He told me the problem is when he meet his ex-girlfriend at the tournament, he will feel very heart broken and its going to affect his perfomance in the tournament. That is the problem that he is facing now.. i really dont know how to help him but i really want to help him ....

    can you guys give any suggestion?? Help.... Thanks

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    Tell him to do his best, put his heart into it, win the tournament... and make her jealous

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    Not an expert in either of the two (especially love ), but here are my 2 cents.

    Ask him to sit down and decide his priorities and then focus on them. Ask him to vent out his feelings through his game, they will give him strength and energy to fight during the game.

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    Both suggestions also valid. Ask him to play his best. He may or may not get back his EX after the tourney. If he doesnt, look into the future. Maybe he can get some fans from the tourney.

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    Either way, if his ex-girlfriend is there, he can't just walk away from the tournament. There's no way he can give a 100% performance unless he turns his feelings into a positive energy.

    It's pretty much up to him, but I'd go down in a blaze of glory.

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    Default pls understand this word

    lets be a "PROFESSIONAL". never let anything to affect your performance!

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    Get some friends to cheer him on during his games. That should keep him focused and energized. If he's playing doubles, get his partner to keep talking to him, encouraging him. Again it is to keep his mind on the game.

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    I broke up the day before the final round tournament, ended up winning it too. The thing is, you have to think straight. Love and badminton do not go together. They are two different things, and if you let one affect the other, then you're bound to fail. Its sad to say, but the saying runs true in this case....nice guys finish last.

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    turn this negative situation into POSITIVE energy.

    ie REVENGE (in court that is)

    (Most american do it in the court of law )
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    Quote Originally Posted by Darma Sucipto
    Hey there.. just wanna share this...
    1 of my friend (trust me, its not me!!), is joining a tournament soon. This tournament is very important for him. He told me that 1 of his ex-girlfriend is joining the tournament too. because they have just broke up and its very painful for him to see his ex-girlfriend again.

    He told me the problem is when he meet his ex-girlfriend at the tournament, he will feel very heart broken and its going to affect his perfomance in the tournament. That is the problem that he is facing now.. i really dont know how to help him but i really want to help him ....

    can you guys give any suggestion?? Help.... Thanks
    i know it's wrong topic, but im just curious wit the tounament u joining... is it selangor close??

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    Quote Originally Posted by verve_pipe
    i know it's wrong topic, but im just curious wit the tounament u joining... is it selangor close??
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    yeap..it is.. but he told me that he wants to forget about his ex... because the problem is they have just broke up. so whenever he thinks about his ex, its very hurtful for him.. seeing his ex again is even worse.... ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darma Sucipto
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    yeap..it is.. but he told me that he wants to forget about his ex... because the problem is they have just broke up. so whenever he thinks about his ex, its very hurtful for him.. seeing his ex again is even worse.... ...
    The problem is in his mind, whether actually see her by person or not, is just 1 of the many ways to show the final effect. Even if she's not there, somehow, he might still think about something and feel down.

    I know it's harder to do than just talk about, and I've experienced something similar in the past. I think it's impossible to just pump him up as nothing ever happened. Himself is the one to make the decision, being a crying baby or be strong, and focus on something he should do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maypf
    lets be a "PROFESSIONAL". never let anything to affect your performance!
    i agree with the comment above, what did you think leyton hewitt done when be broke up with kim clisters? and just look who he's with now

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    Ask him to think and act as a professional. Its down to business. He has to set his personal agenda aside.

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    Tell him to play his best and whenver his ex girlfriend crosses his mind, use it as anger to win.

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    he's screwed.



    hah kidding. well, kinda. its going to be hard, but he's gotta focus on the game only. simple as that sounds, it will be tough, but crucial. play in the tournament, sort out personal stuff AFTER.

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    Hmm... anger is a very dangerous tool to use. It's double edged, depending on your natural disposition... you might be able to focus more when you're angry, but not always and not everyone can use that as an edge. IMO, you guys have already lost since he's so affected by the breakup. Tournaments are tough enough, adding emotional distraction is gonna kill your chance. You might as well be playing 2 vs. 1.

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