what should you do?

I don't know what to say. Playing doubles is a team work. What you guys arguing about?

 

save the arguments till later, arguing during the game just gonna cause more errors and more stress, talk it out after the games finished.

 

maybe u should partner up with some1 who takes the game less serious next time

 

It isnt about the partner playing seriously anot. Everybody plays seriously, to win their game. Well, fact is this kind of people do exist. Since they think that they are more skilled than u in badminton, they will think that, them themselves making mistakes is ok, but the mistakes that the weaker player makes are stupid mistakes.

I used to think that way when i played with my gf when we started playing badminton together. But now, I dont blame her anymore because i know she has done her best. But i have yet to say sorry to her, ego maybe.

 

For the mean time,try to play with another partner,that is his/her level is around u.Aint no good playing with the kinda guy that always underestimated us.I used to felt that before as well.So i decide to get better first then play with or against him.

 

Tell your partner how you feel

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Yes, say sorry to him that the game was lost.

And then tell him exactly what you have stated here;
1. You felt ignored during the game and therefore felt not comfortable and lost confidence to play well.
2. Tell him that you needed to be encouraged to play better and that to argue during the game will not.
3. In future you will allow him to control the game since he is one level higher than you.

I am sure that he has been in your situation before... that is, he played partnering another player one level higher than him.
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It's a matter of acting respectfully, and thinking about the feelings of other players.

Stronger players should be patient when playing with weaker partners. All too often I see the stronger player rolling his eyes, making loud sighing noises, or turning away in disgust. All of these behaviours are intended to say: "I would be winning, but as you can see, my partner is rubbish."

I'm sure most of us have been guilty of this behaviour at some point. It's a bad habit. Think about how your partner is feeling.

The stronger player should try to make his partner feel confident. He should encourage his partner: praise his successes (but don't patronise him!), and downplay his failures. Do everything you can to make the weaker player feel that you are happy to play with him.

He'll play better if he can focus his whole concentration on the game, rather than feeling intimidated by his stronger partner. The social situation has a big influence on how well someone plays.

The stronger player should be careful when giving advice. It is almost impossible to learn a new skill during a game, so never try to teach your partner footwork or hitting actions. Keep any advice to a minimum: a simple tactical idea, such as, "you see how far back he's standing? Try using a low serve instead of that flick serve."

If the weaker player fails to understand or implement the suggestion, then just quietly let it drop. You can always talk about it after the game. After the game, you can even discuss more detailed ideas, such as techniques -- if your partner is willing.

 

since he has issues dealing with weaker players, and you said you were more skilled them him. So? Just beat him in singles, repeatedly if you need to, to make him realize that he's worse than you. Now, he will be a lot less likely to critisize you in doubles.

 

kick his ass!!!

 

Social situations are so much more harder to "fix" than a badminton technique. What strategy to use? How to convey? Was it compelling?

It's an uphill journey, when you're already looked on (wrongfully or not), as "the weaker one."

-dave

 

i sometimes complain my partner when he make mistake.. haha
but i do praise him for good shots....

 

Is this a complaint to jerby?

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Hahaha... Is this a COMPLAINT, an expression of pain, dissatisfaction, or resentment. to jerby?
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