User Tag List

Results 1 to 13 of 13
  1. #1
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Uk
    Posts
    152
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default How do you tell your partener you donīt want to play with them anymore...?

    Hay guys bit of a tender issue. Iīve always had this one main partener and we both accept that iīm the superior player (not to say that he doesnīt have places where heīs better than me). Weīre both really good friends even though most of my friends donīt like him but i donīt want to go into that.
    The thing is weīre both joining a new club the coming seasen and well iīve got a good chance of getting into the second menīs doubles team. But iīll probably be with someone better than me (older and more experianced to show me the ropes because its a new league to me so i donīt know any of the players).
    Its going to benefit my playing immensly if i play for the second mens team with this other guy. Am i being selfish? Should i get some coaching for us both to bring us up to the standard... i donīt want to leave my friend but iīm going to university quite soon so maybe it doesnīt matter. Iīm not sure though. Any advice?

  2. #2
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    Malaysia
    Posts
    1,021
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by jafffa View Post
    Hay guys bit of a tender issue. Iīve always had this one main partener and we both accept that iīm the superior player (not to say that he doesnīt have places where heīs better than me). Weīre both really good friends even though most of my friends donīt like him but i donīt want to go into that.
    The thing is weīre both joining a new club the coming seasen and well iīve got a good chance of getting into the second menīs doubles team. But iīll probably be with someone better than me (older and more experianced to show me the ropes because its a new league to me so i donīt know any of the players).
    Its going to benefit my playing immensly if i play for the second mens team with this other guy. Am i being selfish? Should i get some coaching for us both to bring us up to the standard... i donīt want to leave my friend but iīm going to university quite soon so maybe it doesnīt matter. Iīm not sure though. Any advice?
    Have a talk with your partner .......

  3. #3
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    ? ?The Moon? ?
    Posts
    1,087
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Amin Khalili View Post
    Have a talk with your partner .......
    Yeah the best thing would be to talk to him.

    If he is a good friend , he would understand your reasons.

  4. #4
    Regular Member chris-ccc's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
    Posts
    26,659
    Mentioned
    3 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Arrow We all know that no Doubles partnership lasts forever

    .
    We all know that no Doubles partnership lasts forever. So, sooner or later, you two will be going separate ways.

    So ask your friend if it is time to have a change of partnerships now.
    .
    Last edited by chris-ccc; 08-04-2009 at 01:08 PM.

  5. #5
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Australia, Brisbane
    Posts
    744
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Lol why should your friendship be affected because you want to change doubles partners too improve??

    If you have the opportunity to play with stronger people then do it. Just talk to your friend and explain what you want to do. If hes a real friend then there wont be a problem. If hes a child then youl soon find out

  6. #6
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2002
    Location
    Richmond, BC
    Posts
    5,209
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Enemies anyone? lol!!!

  7. #7
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    Here
    Posts
    19
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Your friend should be happy for you! It's always good to have new opportunities to improve your game. Who knows, your friend may find new opportunities to improve his game too with other players.

    Be considerate and let him know in advance so he is not caught by surprised. Your friend should appreciate that and the friendship should be intact.

    Finally, go for it!

  8. #8
    Moderator
    Join Date
    Apr 2002
    Location
    Outside the box
    Posts
    13,236
    Mentioned
    33 Post(s)
    Tagged
    1 Thread(s)

    Default

    There is a team captain, right? The team captain makes the decision, not you. So it's a non-issue. But you do need to let him know of the possibility if the team has already spoken to you about it, but not yet confirmed.

  9. #9
    Regular Member ctjcad's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2004
    Location
    u.s.a.
    Posts
    19,157
    Mentioned
    1 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default My Ģ1.5 pounds..

    Quote Originally Posted by jafffa View Post
    ...we both accept that iīm the superior player (not to say that he doesnīt have places where heīs better than me). Weīre both really good friends even though most of my friends donīt like him but i donīt want to go into that.
    ...
    ..i think those phrases basically confirm your solid friendship with your friend.
    If you believe that you guys have a mutual friendship then you shouldn't be afraid to share with him your frank feeling. Basically tell him what you've written here.
    Now, here's the extra kicker if just to let him know that you won't forget him. Tell him that you'd still be available to play with him whenever you're not playing with your new "older & more experienced" partner. And who knows, in the future, you guys might team up, again.

  10. #10
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    29
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Is it just me or does every comment sound like something you say after a relationship o.O Anyways talk to your partner, explain your reasons and hopefully he can do the same so you can reunite in the future :P You are still friends anyway so it's not like you two still can't play.

  11. #11
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    garden grove
    Posts
    415
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    what the hek, how could you say that, i'm not better than you? excuse me say that again?
    LOL, no, i'm not his friend. Here is one of my COULD be "the worst" advice. Recommend him with this forum, tell him your screenname, if you want. And let him come across this thread you posted. lol
    I think best is just talk to him

  12. #12
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    CA
    Posts
    562
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    Well you just want to switch partners so that you can improve. It doesn't mean that you don't want to be his friend anymore.

    But i think you're concern that he might think that you're thinking he's not good enough. Well, since both of you agreed that you're the better of the two then what's there to worry about.

    You and friend must be pretty good friend because none of your other friend likes him, but you enjoyed playing with him. It just shows that there's a good bond with him. You guys might go separate ways for college/university so it might be that this is the last year to play as well.

  13. #13
    Regular Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Location
    Northeast
    Posts
    1,281
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Tagged
    0 Thread(s)

    Default

    just say

    "let's partner with different players and see how best we could go.."

Similar Threads

  1. No Confidence in my style of play anymore.
    By Radion in forum Techniques / Training
    Replies: 44
    : 07-07-2009, 10:26 PM
  2. don't see myself improving anymore
    By Potato in forum Techniques / Training
    Replies: 18
    : 10-25-2008, 12:20 AM
  3. Unable to play doubles anymore
    By thatoneaznguy in forum Techniques / Training
    Replies: 6
    : 03-08-2007, 11:36 PM
  4. Does Nobody use ashaway anymore?
    By coops241180 in forum Badminton String
    Replies: 17
    : 10-23-2002, 08:48 AM
  5. ti8-3U,anymore???
    By ari in forum Badminton Rackets / Equipment
    Replies: 1
    : 07-15-2001, 02:32 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •