Ideal age to be married

To me, there is no ideal age for marriage as long as you are ready for it. By saying ready, means that you are ready to contribute your everything for your family and ready to take the responsibility. Also, you are ready to give up something when you have no option.

However, you can get married anytime you want eventhough you are not ready. A lot of people get married for different kind of reasons.

Some people always think if the husband is a lot older than the wife, they will love and care about his wife more. IMO, there is no such thing that is fixed. It is really depends on the personality of a person.

 

Hmmm... I guess I won't get married until early 30's. So far, just too many things to take care, and really need to enjoy some life of my OWN.

U know, badminton practice + string take away a lot of time, no time for girl hunting as I did in college yrs...

 

It depends on the type of person you are. If you are the inventive type, you are better off not marrying anyone. Majority of inventors through ou history are either loners or had broken marriage. Issac Newton was never married.

As for me, it was both a blessing and a curse. That's why when you get married, the vow says for better or worse.

If loneliness doesn't bother you, you should probably hold off on marriage. Once you get married, your life changes dramatically. And when you have kids, your life will take a turn to the south.

Ben

 

As for the researching type, you will have no time to look for girls since you will be buried with work at the lab all day. Your personal hygene will be the first turn off to most people since you will smell like chemicals and latex gloves, and the lack of sunlight and fresh air will give you a wonderful "pale" glow. Your only hope is to perhaps genetically create your perfect "mate."

There might always be the hope of finding either someone who will deal with your eccentric schedule, or perhaps you might find romance in a fellow researcher. hmmm.... good luck.

 

Well I guess the question would be better posted to my gf to answer. We've been together for almost 4 years now and that's through all my 4 years of undergraduate researching work and summers. So far she hasn't had much complaints, except about lack of attention to her because of badminton, not research.

We are talking about marriage in a few years so yeah, to answer your question, it isn't that bad, at least for me. However, I do know plenty of relationships ending during graduate school years due to the demand of work required. It's worth the risk IMHO.

 

The ideal thing would be to get your girlfriend involved in your whatever research you will/are doing. I guess researchers are not as eccentric as inventors. I practically had to put everything on hold because I have a relatively demanding wife.

I used to build my own circuit boards. I love making little electronic gadgets.

Ben

 

Yeah that seems to work, this past weekend when I had to come in and do some mice work, gf came along and help me log in some datas while I was working with the mice. It just depends on how the situation is handled.

 

God... just have to say, "good for u"...

I've been heard enough negative stories about relationship, about how girls demand their bf do this and that, and give up their own interests.

U r the 1st one, I really know, that gf not going to against u, but even helped u out with ur own stuff.

 

o great cheung, that just gives me reasons to look forward to holy matrimony...

 

haha yes "real" mice, sorry for the confusion. We got them all here, I work with mice, hampsters, and guinea pigs on occasion. I was thinking of bringing one back home for a pet...not sure if that's possible though.

 

Better don't do it.

Consider this: once ur lovely pet somehow get out of cage, and running everywhere, and see ur gf jumping up and down, and screaming like a 5-yr old...
hmmm... I won't be surprised that both u (make sure grab ur badminton stuff immediately!!!) and ur pet will spend at least a night on the street or something.


j/k....

 

well surprisingly, she's not that afraid of the little critters so that really won't be a problem. yeah considering the thought that the little critters might escape and starts to chew on my badminton shuttles and strings is an atrocious thought ...

 

Hey jwu, so glad to find a fellow mouse freak on BF. I showed my girlfriend a cervical dislocation and she wouldn't let me touch her for a week.

But to answer JChen's concerns about research and relationships, it depends on how obssessive you are with bench work. I think it's important to balance work with play. I know this sounds obvious, but in research it's easy to get caught up in the work and forget there's a whole world out there.