Husband & Wife - Is a successful partnership possible?

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  1. DuckFeet

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    Wait, she said she needed a spare? Buy it now in the spec you want!

    I almost let this one get away but I (can't think of a fishing analogy, sorted my life out) and she bit again.
    She doesn't play though.
     
  2. Cheung

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    As I said before, sucker punched. You are dead meat.
     
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    Do men really let thier wives push them around like this?
     
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    Lol... It's called a compromise... but in any case, there is much truth in the saying: happy wife, happy life. :p
     
  5. gundamzaku

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    i guess i do see it as a compromise, and since i love her more than all my rackets combined, it's not so much being bullied but me being big about the whole thing :)


    my buddy actually used "happy wife, happy life" as part of his best man speech in two of our buddies' weddings.. at the time i laughed since i was ignorant and dumb, now i understand the truth behind it :p
     
  6. drmchsraj

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    athlete or not, i'm going to make a wife of such a woman, who is passionate in..2 things
    a) endless cash supply
    b) treating me like a king and pampering me with gifts etc
    special exception: c) if she happens to be the daughters, granddaughters or suitably aged younger sisters of the ceos of yonex, li-ning, victor etc ;) ahem
     
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    I want some of what he's smoking!! :cool:

    Girls like that probably often hang-out at badminton clubs looking for sweaty guys to marry. :rolleyes: Good luck with your plan. ;)
     
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    Hmm, I can only conclude your hormonal state is affecting a Dr Spock state of logical deduction.

    You buddy might not have read this (didn't I put up a link like this before?). Give it to him now and ask him if he would say the same thing...;)

    http://healthland.time.com/2013/12/17/extreme-marriage-experiment-suggests-its-better-to-be-right-than-happy/
     
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    nice link!
    i guess the secret lies in making the other person think they have the upper hand even when they don't. takes skill, and years of patience to win that game, that badminton pales in comparision :)
    BUT we do have to make certain sacrifices now and then :(.... like gundamzaku's new racket for instance haha.
     
  10. gundamzaku

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    lol, my buddy was a badminton enthusiast but stopped after he relocated to new jersey, met his wife, married her, and started playing ping pong instead because she's an enthusiast. he's someone who is really chill, so he usually just goes along with whatever she says. so it's still happy wife happy life for him!!!
     
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    I know that this is a light-hearted thread. But a word to the wise:

    To continually repress one's feelings and desires, in subjugation to a spouse, is not a recipe for long-term happiness in marriage ....

    ... No matter how 'hot' she is. :eek:
     
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    Hmmm, define 'hot' ... :p

    One can always plan ahead by saving a bit of each pay cheque for counselling fees for a good psychologist that will inevitably be needed. :D
     
  13. gundamzaku

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    she's not hot at all....but i guess he's so easy going that it doesn't even seem he's repressing anything. but i do think his own relationship is a lot more healthy than i had described :)
     
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    both games require deception?? :D
     
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    You mean something has to be faked?! ;)
     
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    Men came from Mars?

    You_Who_Came_From_the_Stars-p1.jpg
     
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    'Mars', the planet named for the God of War?
    The guy in the picture looks like he came from 'Cuticle', the spa named for the Goddess of Manicures.
     
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    she was the best looking in My Sassy Girl, but now, she's just old.
     
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    well said, i was going to make fun of him too, but i couldn't do it without some derogatory name calling!! thank you, you've spoke my mind exactly!!!
     
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    back on topic of partnership, i recently had a chat with her since we are still disagreeing, or actually she mentioned that she gets a lot of pressure from me to do well which affects her game because she's afraid that i will get upset. and even thru the last time we played where i kept my mouth shut she said she still feels a lot of pressure. at the same time, she thought my way of encouraging her is not useful for her. as it turned out, the way i encourage people is to be negative, point out the fault, and ask for change, then move on. i do that to myself, so i thought it would be the same with others, which now that i think about it, is very stupid. she wanted positive encouragement instead. so if she misses a shot, she would want me to tell her that it's ok, since she can do it during practice, she can also do it during the game. this is totally new to me because ever since i started playing sports, i've always been telling myself what i did wrong, i get upset at myself, but i remember what i do wrong and consciously tell myself i need to watch out. when i ask for criticism, i don't need people to "sugarcoat" it, and just tell me straight up, what i'm doing wrong, but i guess it's different than what she's used to. i do understand different kinds of encouragement and i had told her i will do exactly what she told me when i want to encourage her :p
     

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