Sorry for the title Maybe you can help me with my problem: I'm an intermediate player and play mostly doubles. I am ambitious, I had training lessons with a coach and I think it shows when I'm playing. I don't have a fixed partner, but I team up with whoever is around. I try to avoid people I don't like playing with but sometimes, I don't really have a choice and I don't want to be rude. So I also play with people I don't like (as a team mate, not generally). What is interesting is that people often feel inclined to teach me during a match. I don't really know why -- well, I do know why, it's because they often play better than me and can give me good advice, and that's fine. BUT, and here it comes: Often, people feel inclined to advise me even though they are clearly not better than me. They might have a harder smash than me (it seems like this is the measurement of skill to them...) but they don't have a good technique, no footwork and/or play a weird strategy. I simply have zero trust in their superiority in any way. Sometimes, they want to force me to play only in the front (either by advising me to stay in the front or they are forcing me with their "footwork", and I'm not even that bad in the rear court). Sometimes, they give me weird technical advice on how I should hold my racket or bend my wrist. Sometimes, they give me advice which I already know because it is basic but although you know it, you can't always deliver (yeah, I know that it's not good to play a high shot to the middle court... ). Usually, I don't say anything when this happens, or I say "yes, ok/thanks, I'll try to avoid it/I already know this/etc.", and I try to be cool and play my game. But it always bothers me. This week, I started to turn it around and do the same thing to them. I was curious how they would react if I advised them. The end of the story: They stopped advising me but they were also really seriously pissed at me and the game was a desaster. Well, at least, now they maybe don't want to play with me anymore To avoid this unpleasantness in the future: Any ideas on how to handle such a situation in a smarter way? N.B.: I'm a girl. (I don't think that this should make a difference but it might make one). And these people are usually guys.