And even now you don't see that all of her reactions are the result of your previous. You explain yourself and don't accept that you don't make by the standard and impressions of others mistakes. You discuss that your mistakes are not mistakes and still search the fault at her. If you reflect, you will also discover that her reactions also don't be mistakes in her world and her intentions. Learning is a process to accept own mistakes. It's tough to accept them, but without you will never learn, because you don't did something wrong. I tell you something. This happens to me regular. If I meet a group infront of the hall and say "hello" not everybody respond. Sometimes nobody respond. If I leave the hall and say "bye" to all, sometimes some respond, sometimes not. One day, I was in bad mood and stressed. I didn't said "hello" and "bye" and some people claimed that I be rude. Instead of making a discussion of it, I say it now every time. If somebody don't respond I don't care. I break up with the tought that if I give, I should always get something back. It's the same with help, beeing friendly etc. Sometimes you don't get it back if you help somebody, be friendly to somebody etc. If you are just friendly and helpful because you want the same or something different, that it is is cold calculation and not honest. What you did makes sense in your head. We all know it now and I can understand why you did so, but does the person also get and understand it which is involved? Other people have a different definiton of respectful. You consider keeping distance as respectful. Other will understand it that you ignore them because you didn't got what you wanted, which makes you a cold person with calculation. Both can be true and wrong. It's easy to misunderstand, so a talk would be necessary. Does you know it or is it just your perception? Could also be a misunderstanding or a matter of type or content. If a topic don't interest me I don't respond to it much. A problem is never solved when it is just solved for one side. I guess that it is still in your head. If everything is fine for her, it mustn't be fine for you as well. IMO you should also try to solve. If not possible don't let her to **** your head. Take it as simple as it is. You play together and that's it. Reduce the communication to game related content. Not everybody must be friendly, warm or communicative because it is your understanding of a team mate. You become part of a team because of two reasons: same club, same/close level. If you like or dislike each other is not important for the decision. If it affect you play, look for different partner in team if possible. If not, you must accept it or change team or club.