For someone that just wants to have fun, it's hard to give her any feedback (other than good job, good idea). If you and your SO have very different skill levels, and attitude towards the games (e.g. you're competitive, and she just wants to have fun), it's difficult to work together, for long. If your SO also wants to improve, then that's a different matter. You can then think about how to best communicate. Otherwise, consider dedicate 1-2 games (at the most) each session to just "have fun" with her, and keep your mouth shut! Playing against weaker opponents help. This gives more leeway to any mistakes made, and you can still win.
one conclusion we came to was that we are both competitive, and we both think that we know everything, not just badminton. so that's the most difficult part. but i do believe that my attitude plays the biggest part in starting a fight, so i promised that i will change. thank you for your suggestions, we do play between a group of people who just wanted to have fun, and the challenge court where people are more competitive and consistent
Played two mixed double games with my wife, she was on the opposite side of course. Out of the four people on court, she was the weakest one and her partner was at least two level above me, it was a normal combination I believe. My partner and I won both closed game. On our way home, out of no where she turned off the radio and asked me 'did you recall a beautiful crossed court drop I did'. 'gundamzaku', here is an excellent real life answer to your post above. Out of 8o points, around 500 shots, she only remembers ONE or chooses to talks about one shot, the positive one. I hope it sheds some light on how women think.
LOL. That's dramatic!! My wife does the similar things. Apparently, your wife was very impressed with that crossed drop. Take this opportunity to "suck" up...
gundam, so if you want your wife to encourage you like you do yourself, then she must get upset at you and scold you and point out all your faults when you play.
she's not like that, and she thinks i am too hard on myself, even on the challenge court. she just doesn't like the pressure i "project" onto her thru my attitude.
haha, thx, i'm still trying to learn this new "happy wife happy life" thing. after being single for this long, it's just weird to live life with someone and try to be harmonious all the time. even tho when i'm angry i play harder and better (maybe i'm a rage-aholic) but i don't like getting mad so i try not to have fights on or off the court
i can testify to that! we were playing a friendly non competitive game once, and a female walked by and just said hi to me. since i'm a badminton gym whore, i go wherever there's great fun players and play with them cos that's just....fun! so i think nothing of it, then after the night was over, we went out to eat a late late dinner with our usual badminton group on a nice friday night, nothing happens. so got home, after shower, she goes, "who was that woman who said 'hi' to you?" i'm like, what woman are you talking about, i don't recall saying hi to some woman...probably because of my memory going out the window now that i'm in my mid 30s. women is a totally different specie all together. i love them, but i don't get them!
O M G .. this is a scary thread .. I told my wife that I'll teach her how to play baddy .. now its a thorn in my throat .. can't swallow .. can't spit ..
Don't scare him... Lol. At least it'll be a good test of your patience. Remember to take deep breaths frequently.
"Happy wife, happy life!" How true :'( Before marriage, everything is negotiable on the table. After marriage, ur life will b turned upside down. Ppl outside may think u r the man of the house. But u know the truth in ur heart. Blessed r those who get to settle down with demure, highly tolerant, submissive wives which r becoming rare species these days. Sorry for ranting my thoughts here...
